[NIFL-FAMILY:3282] RE: holidays

From: Margo Waddell (mwaddell@famlit.org)
Date: Fri Dec 01 2000 - 11:42:45 EST


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When my children were at home, and I was a single parent, stress ran high in
our house approaching and during the holidays. Most of the stress was
related to my knowing that the children would leave Christmas eve on an
airplane to Canada and not return until the New Year eve bubbles were flat.
I realized eventually that they suffered from the same stress that I did in
a different way. They were sad that their mom and dad were not only
divorced, but could not stand to be in the same room with each other. I tell
you all this so you might understand the list of stress busters we developed
to survive until we were together again.
We started right after Thanksgiving making and mailing Christmas cards to
everyone we knew we would not see during the holidays. Our lists were
different and it gave us a chance to talk about the people on the list and
what we wanted them to know about our lives this year. We usually had a new
address to share too, because we moved often.
Second we made Christmas cookies together every weekend. It gave us lots of
time to be together, laugh, discuss things, and express our creativity in
design, or not, depending on our day. These were the gifts we gave. Packed
up in little bundles or tins that I collected all year at garage sales. The
children would carry their cookies to Canada, and I would take or send some
to my friends and family here in the United States. We also read the
Christmas story from the Bible and set up a small crèche scene to help us
remember why people celebrate Christmas. The children always added something
special that they made. I worked every Christmas day for others so they
could be with their families, knowing how much that would mean to them. It
helped me get through those years.
Now, I enjoy a family holiday every year with one of my children and their
family.
 I still make cards and cookies to give and enjoy.
May your holiday be blessed this year and your new year grand!
Best wishes,
Margo Waddell
NCFL

> -----Original Message-----
> From: nifl-family@nifl.gov [mailto:nifl-family@nifl.gov]On Behalf Of
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> Sent: Monday, November 20, 2000 12:07 PM
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> Does anyone have ideas or sources for giving parents ideas about
> "Living through the stressful holidays with children"?
>
> B.
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