Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.9.3/8.9.0.Beta5/980425bjb) with SMTP id HAA19295; Wed, 29 Mar 2000 07:48:10 -0500 (EST) Date: Wed, 29 Mar 2000 07:48:10 -0500 (EST) Message-Id: <7e.2d3ffc6.2613548e@aol.com> Errors-To: alcrsb@langate.gsu.edu Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: AWilder106@aol.com To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:620] Re: Women, Violence, and learning X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas X-Mailer: AOL for Macintosh sub 146 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit Content-Type: text/plain; charset="US-ASCII" Status: OR Joellen, What you are describing is a power play, a way to disempower women by turning to the man as boss in the room when violence comes up. The solution mirrors the problem. I have been put on the other side of this so many times it isn't funny. I know something is going on, but my socialization to fit in is pretty strong. Finally I spotted it. I don't really have a solution to this. Obviously it bothers the guy when you talk about male to female violence, and maybe a remark to that effect would ameliorate the situation: "Do you get bothered when we talk about male/female violence?" Better than being sucked into the male choice of dialogue. But not very deft. I would be interested in how other women handle this problem. Andrea
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