[NIFL-WOMENLIT:1023] Re: Therapy supports

From: Kate Nonesuch (knonesuch@TheHub.capcollege.bc.ca)
Date: Thu Sep 28 2000 - 11:51:20 EDT


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Thanks, Andrea, especially for the clear direction--"The best thing a
teacher can do. . .

nifl-womenlit@nifl.gov writes:
>Jenny,
>
>I feel I should reframe this conversation a little.  
>
>Survivors aren't strong, really.  We can do a lot, cope with a lot, but
>there 
>are fault lines in our characters that people who haven't been abused
>don't 
>have.  And we may always be vulnerable to certain kinds of stress,
>meaning 
>that memories come back because they are burned into our brain circuits. 
>We 
>have to learn how to cope with a society which stigmatizes us and people
>who 
>are afraid of us if we open our mouths about these things.  I happen to
>be 
>with a group of people to whom horrible things have happened, to them or 
>their relatives, and my experiences are no more than a drop in the bucket
>to 
>them.  No exactly ho-hum, but par for (some) courses.  What happened to
>me 
>was bad luck.  It could have happened to anybody else at any other time,
>but 
>I was there at the wrong place and the wrong time with the wrong people.  
>
>The best thing I can say to a teacher is to get the student a referral
>and 
>then get out of the way.  Teach.  Good teachers are highly skilled at
>working 
>with all types of students.  Respect what we are trying to accomplish and 
>help us out.  Every teacher should put together their own safety net.
>
>Depending on the degree of damage medical help may be necessary for some
>of 
>us.  Abuse CAN cause physiological change that medicine helps.  It's like
>a 
>cast for a broken leg, or a wrist splint.
>
>I know a lot of teachers don't understand these things and want to help
>and 
>don't know what to do.  Hats off to them.  They'll seek answers, like
>Daphne 
>did.  And they'll learn to manage their own issues so as to be better 
>teachers.  I did, and so have other teachers who come from a background
>of 
>abuse.
>
>Gotta run--I've got a day job off the list--and thanks for listening.
>
>Andrea
>



Kate Nonesuch, Instructor                                   

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