Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.10.2/8.10.2) with SMTP id f2N1Deg00978; Thu, 22 Mar 2001 20:13:40 -0500 (EST) Date: Thu, 22 Mar 2001 20:13:40 -0500 (EST) Message-Id: <6c.8ce5f25.27ebfce5@aol.com> Errors-To: alcrsb@langate.gsu.edu Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: AWilder106@aol.com To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:1324] Re: Disclosure X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas X-Mailer: AOL 4.0 for Mac - Post-GM sub 146 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit Content-Type: text/plain; charset="US-ASCII" Status: O Content-Length: 1168 Lines: 24 Daphne, Let me tell you something that I experienced at second hand. A couple of years ago I worked as a management consultant to a middle school. The assistant principal came into the office and told us about a girl who had come to her office and told her about being abused by an older relative. The assistant principal had burst into tears. I was shocked by her reaction, frankly, and wondered why she hadn't gotten angry--"That creep, what a horrible thing to do to you..." or whatever. I thought to myself, "you bursting into tears isn't going to do her any good." I'm right on this one, and let me tell you from my experience--you have to imagine growing up in a family or situation where abuse is normal, even if hidden. To have someone get angry, an indication of a boundary violated, can be a profound learning experience for the abused person--someone will get angry ON MY BEHALF. I hope I'm being clear on this, I seem to be getting mixed up with my pronouns. I understand what I have said above wasn't your experience, but what you said jogged my memory with this anecdote. Thank you for staying with this topic. Andrea
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