Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.10.2/8.10.2) with SMTP id h4CDkkC17903; Mon, 12 May 2003 09:46:46 -0400 (EDT) Date: Mon, 12 May 2003 09:46:46 -0400 (EDT) Message-Id: <sebf6cd9.018@langate.gsu.edu> Errors-To: alcrsb@langate.gsu.edu Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: "Daphne Greenberg" <alcdgg@langate.gsu.edu> To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:2574] outcome of conversation with husband X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit Content-Type: text/plain; charset=US-ASCII X-Mailer: Novell GroupWise Internet Agent 6.0.3 Status: O Content-Length: 2558 Lines: 16 Thanks for all the responses regarding the husband who called regarding his wife's participation in the reading research project. I found all of your listserv responses and your private responses to me very interesting, and descriptive of the complexities of such an event. As promised, here were my thoughts/concerns and what I ended up doing: My immediate gut reaction was I am not going to call him back and that I would ask her about it the next time I saw her. Then I started to wonder whether she is involved in a violent relationship and wondered if that were the case-would it be better for her if I called. I worried that by not calling him back, I might make him angry at her. But I still worried about calling him, because he may not know that she has literacy problems-what if she is secretly going to the literacy program? How do I know how much to tell him about the research project? So I waited. The first day that she did not return to her literacy program, I figured-okay coincidence. The second day, I figured, she could be sick. By the third day I got nervous. Especially because he left a few messages on my voice mail. So, eventhough I didn't want to call him-I did. He answered and I told him who I was and that I was returning his call. He wanted information about the reading project so that he could decide whether it made sense for his wife to do it. I felt like asking him why I needed to talk to him about that, but didn't. Instead I asked him what specific questions he had. He wanted to know the exact times, days, and locations of the class. Once I told him, he thanked me. I then asked him if he thought she would be attending. I asked him this because it seemed clear to me that he would be deciding this. He told me that he thought that she would be too busy to attend 4 days a week 2 hours a day. I asked him if he had any other questions and he said no and we said good bye. She came back to the literacy program the next day. I asked her if she wanted to join our literacy research project and she declined, saying that she didn't have the time. I told her that I understood and asked her if she would be able to continue her regular literacy program which met 2 days a week for 2 hours. She said yes. I am glad to report that I have noticed that she has been able to attend her regular program Daphne Daphne Greenberg Associate Director Center for the Study of Adult Literacy MSC 6A0360 Georgia State University 33 Gilmer Street SE Unit 6 Atlanta, GA 30303-3086 phone: 404-651-0127 fax:404-651-4901 dgreenberg@gsu.edu
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