Return-Path: <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Received: from literacy (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by literacy.nifl.gov (8.10.2/8.10.2) with SMTP id iB93u2U08916; Wed, 8 Dec 2004 22:56:02 -0500 (EST) Date: Wed, 8 Dec 2004 22:56:02 -0500 (EST) Message-Id: <200412090354.iB93soU08852@literacy.nifl.gov> Errors-To: listowner@nifl.gov Reply-To: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Originator: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Sender: nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov Precedence: bulk From: "Jenny Horsman" <jhorsman@idirect.com> To: Multiple recipients of list <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:3090] Re: Question X-Listprocessor-Version: 6.0c -- ListProcessor by Anastasios Kotsikonas X-Mailer: Microsoft Office Outlook, Build 11.0.6353 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit Content-Type: text/plain; Status: O Content-Length: 3879 Lines: 94 I went back to have a look at those messages - I couldn't find anything useful in the earlier discussion as the messages were primarily about the legal system. The approach I have heard for the situation described here is to respond with a comment such as: "I don't know how you got those bruises but I want to tell you that I don't believe anyone deserves to be hurt and there are resources to help women who are being hurt....." and even to go on and talk more about the services you know about, why you like them.... etc. I like this way because it bypasses the: "it was an accident type response" doesn't try to argue just says if..... then......... Such an approach gives food for thought without pressure - later the person might come back and ask more. The other thing I think is important is that there is lots of info. in the program anyway that makes it clear that violence is never OK - posters, pictures, flyers... and lots of easily available and obvious (so you don't have to ask anyone for it) info. on where to go to get help of various sorts. One program I know has a poster and flyers in the washroom - then women can read it and take the flyer without fear of anyone seeing or asking questions. The more the issue of violence is ordinary and recognized as a big problem in a program the less it feels as if the only intervention is if there is a direct conversation. The resources that Susan Hayden recommended and the websites might be good possibilities to have on hand and visible in the program. Good luck with taking up this issue sensitively and supportively in a way that is non-judgmental. Jenny Horsman Spiral Community Resource Group www.jennyhorsman.com -----Original Message----- From: nifl-womenlit@nifl.gov [mailto:nifl-womenlit@nifl.gov] On Behalf Of Susan Hayden Sent: Tuesday, December 07, 2004 5:34 PM To: Multiple recipients of list Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:3084] Re: Question This website addressed this topic in August. See NIFL-WOMENLIT archives for #'s 2992, 2989, 2987, 2986 on August 26, 27 and 29th. You are not jumping to conclusions - statistics will prove that. Please see these two websites are great starting points to help this young woman: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence http://www.ncadv.org National Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.ndvh.org/ The Hotline Advocates can refer callers to legal agencies in their local area. The WV Library Commission and the WV Coalition Against Domestic Violence are placing informational display kits in public libraries so community and civic organizations, adult education and literacy classrooms, etc. can check the kits out of the public library and have a local advocate come and present a short seminar on the topic. Good luck. Susan Hayden Adult Services Consultant West Virginia Library Commission 1900 Kanawha BLVD, E Charleston, WV 25305 1-800-642-9021 (toll free in WV only) 1-304-558-3978, ext. 2014 haydens@wvlc.lib.wv.us ----- Original Message ----- From: "Daphne Greenberg" <ALCDGG@langate.gsu.edu> To: "Multiple recipients of list" <nifl-womenlit@literacy.nifl.gov> Sent: Tuesday, December 07, 2004 4:14 PM Subject: [NIFL-WOMENLIT:3080] Question >A teacher who lurks on the listserv asked me to post this for her: > "I have a student who has been in my class for almost a year. She is 25 > and lives with her mom and step-dad. Three times she has arrived to > class with a black eye and other bruises on her face and body. She > always has an excuse and claims to be "accident-prone," but I am worried > about her. Is there some way that I can help her without embarrassing > her? I may be jumping to conclusions. Today she gave me a very > involved explanation about how she hurt herself rock-climbing. Maybe > she did, it just seems a little odd to me to have a black eye and > bruises so often." > Any ideas?
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