Hello 
 
I have been reading this discussion, and some thoughts came to  my 
 
mind as I have been reading the comments  and I have  comments and 
 
questions in this regards: My question is 1. How are you  defining 
 
abuse in the people whom you have encounter and taught? 
 
2. What perspective are you looking at the abuse?
 
My comments and thoughts are that 1. Even in this 21st century 
 
some people do not view as others do . As when Katherine wrote 
 
that she felt bad for mixing her students , unfortunately it  may have been 
 
a case of victimizing the victim in the community where she  lived or 
 
everyone new it was happening ,but feared to say anything  about it 
 
and feared the abuser.Or in the community it may not be  considered
 
abuse , she is just doing her womanly duties and accepting  what is 
 
happening . My comment : When and If the conversation come up 
 
you are being viewed by the victim as someone to fear ,  because 
 
you may  cause the situation to get worse or make the  victim aware
 
that what is happening is called abuse. Yes, I was a victim of  abuse 
 
and because I did not know or allow it to happen someone had  to show 
 
me and teach me what it was. When I say allow , by staying in  the 
relationship 
 
I did allow myself to be abused. 
 
 
Thanks 

Rosalind 
 
 
 
 
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