While it is true that men abuse men tremendously, we shouldn't confuse that with women abusing men.  Yes, some women abuse men, but that is NOT the norm nor is it supported by the institutions in our society.  Let me be clear.  There is NO EXCUSE for women to abuse men; but that does not change the fact that (1) men are much more likely to abuse women and (2) men are much more likely to abuse men (than are women).  Violence and abuse are part of "masculinity" in many sectors of this society.  In order to stop much of the abuse, there is a large set of sources called "Working with Men to End Violence Against Women."  In this bibliography, you will find many good references about how to deal with violence against men.  It is free and available on the web.

Natalie Sokoloff
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From: povertyracewomen-bounces at nifl.gov [povertyracewomen-bounces at nifl.gov] On Behalf Of karen.mobley at NORIS.ORG [karen.mobley at NORIS.ORG]
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I also work in a jail as an ABLE-GED Instructor and I REALLY BEG to DIFFER about statitics....because men don't say anything...MANY MEN are victims of abuse...maybe not rape issues, but verbal, mental, and also physical abuse ---- and women do murder...I am really upset that programs are out there for ONLY FEMALES..it is biased and totally unfair!!! How are males going to deal with same situations when there is NO available help? Karen Mobley, ABLE-GED Instructor   Message from "Karen Wyman" <Karenw at nmcadv.org><mailto:Karenw at nmcadv.org> at 2008-04-11 15:36:55 ------
Michael wrote:

“Just wondering is there a program for "In His Shoes?" I work in a jail and find that females are NOT always the abused and there is generally no program for abused males”



Hi, Michael,

I don’t know of any such program. Certainly anyone can be a victim of abuse, but women are overwhelmingly the victims of intimate partner violence. Given the statistics, it is entirely appropriate that the bulk of information about domestic violence focuses on the plight of battered women. Of all victims, women are also more likely to experience serious personal injury, rape, or murder at the hands of their male partners.



There are two versions of the “In Her Shoes” material, however. One is an economic justice version which includes the perspective of the partners of the victims. Those abusive partners, by the way, are not always men, though I think that all of the victims in “In Her Shoes” are women.



The training is intended not so much for victims of DV but for advocates and service providers to understand the difficulties and challenges of navigating the educational, social service, and public assistance systems while experiencing domestic violence. I think that it would be a useful tool for providers regardless of the sex of the victims with whom they are working.



Respectfully,

Karen



Karen Wyman
Community Outreach Trainer
New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence  (NMCADV)
201 Coal Avenue SW
Albuquerque, NM 87102
phone 505.246.9240
fax 505.246.9434
www.nmcadv.org<http://www.nmcadv.org>
karenw at nmcadv.org



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